>> But I think this will not work for me as the fxp does not appear on
>> my PCI bus :(
> My NIC never completely disappeared, [...]

Is the EEPROM socketed?  Could you pull it and put it in a
reader/burner, fill it with 0xffff maybe (which seems to put the device
into a mode where at least it appears on the bus)?

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