> I have been reading some about ipfilters and ipl, but I
> haven't found any information about this yet! ;(  

 "man ipf"

> Can these programs
> preforme these tasks? Or is there any other software that can do this?

 Partially: You cannot perform IP bandwidth control (shaping). For the
rest, ipf is a good base. In combination with the allow/disallow function
it is a nice start. ("man hosts.allow").

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Markus Illenseer