Please have a look at my dmesg output at 
http://www.reedmedia.net/~reed/tmp-98436tghoienb/dmesg.out

I can also provide pcictl and usbdevs or other output -- let me know.

Where is my wireless?

I think it is a Realtek RTL8187B that is USB based.

NetBSD new-host-2 4.0_RC4 NetBSD 4.0_RC4 (GENERIC) #0: Thu Nov 8 00:11:53 
PST 2007 
builds@wb28:/home/builds/ab/netbsd-4-0-RC4/amd64/200711080452Z-obj/home/builds/ab/netbsd-4-0-RC4/src/sys/arch/amd64/compile/GENERIC 
amd64

Thanks!

p.s. Also see see 
http://archive.netbsd.se/?ml=netbsd-tech-net&a=2006-12&m=2849738
It might be related.