I have a 1.3.2 system and I enabled XDM in /etc/rc.conf

I have an NCD17c XTerm set up and when xdm starts up initially
I get my nifty login: on the XTerm, but if I turn the XTerm off
and then back on, (reboot it) then I never get the little
login: prompt until I HUP xdm :(

here is the line I added to my /usr/X11R6/lib/X11/xdm/Xservers file
skylight:0 foreign

Any suggestions?
Any important info Im leaving out?

Thanks
Nick Maniscalco