> does anyone know the right directories

/usr/X11R6.  /usr/X11R6/bin holds the X server and the standard client
executables, /usr/X11R6/lib holds the libraries, fonts, and
configuration files, /usr/X11R6/include and /usr/X11R6/man hold the C
header files and manuals, respectively.

> also trying to figure out how to update the library links and
> everything... (/usr/lib/X11 etc...)

See the FAQ.

> also when i type startx i get this error:
> screen 0 at 0xFF000000 640 X 480 80 rowbytes 146472960 fbaddr

This is not an error message.  Xserver is simply telling you all the
screens it could find.

ken