well i finally got q2 to work, and when i do ./quake2 +set vid_ref softx it works, but ./quake2 +game ctf +set vid_ref softx
Added packfile ./baseq2/pak0.pak (3307 files)
Added packfile ./baseq2/pak1.pak (279 files)
Added packfile ./baseq2/pak2.pak (2 files)
execing default.cfg
execing config.cfg
Console initialized.

------- sound initialization -------
sound sampling rate: 11025
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------- Loading ref_softx.so -------
setting mode 5: 960 720
MITSHM shared memory (id=684457987, addr=0x4c048000)
MITSHM shared memory (id=581042180, addr=0x4c19a000)
2608k surface cache
ref_soft version: SOFT 0.01
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CDAudio_Init: open of "/dev/cdrom" failed (2)
====== Quake2 Initialized ======

Added packfile ./ctf/pak0.pak (169 files)

------- sound initialization -------
sound sampling rate: 11025
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------- Loading ref_softx.so -------
recursive shutdown
Error: VID: Could not open display []

i get that Error, and Display is set to :0.0